MUST READ!!! KANSAS CITY LADIES' MAN CRAIG GLAZER TALKS SEX VS. LOVE!!!
TKC NOTE: Let's switch gears for Saturday afternoon and check this EPIC passage from our pal Craig Glazer regarding life, love and sex ...
The Often Thick Line Between Sex and Love
Now here is a subject that applies to all of us. When you are in love with someone does that mean your sex life with them is based on the feelings of the heart? That's a subject most of us can relate too.
From what I've come to know, the two don't often meet, sex and love. I wish they did.Now these are just my opinions based on my experiences. Like most things precious in our lives we all hope for the best when it comes to love and sex but as time goes by, we start to expect the worst. Yes the CHEATING thoughts. Should I cheat, I'm bored in bed with my significant other. Is she cheating. All these thoughts come with time in each relationship. What do we do to 'spice up the sex life,' that's dangerous huh.
True love is best when its new. It's at the top of its game when we are very young and sex is new as well. However as that first relationship ends and we begin another one and another one, that's when the trouble all starts right. When will she get sick of me? When will I get sick or her? Now that the sex life is quieted down, do we still love each other? You come from work and she her car in front of the house and think 'damn she's home' by the way she yours and thinks the same thing.
We are told as kids that when you have a special partner its ok to 'make love.' In my experiences I don't often see the two acts or feelings match up. I wish they did, life would be so much better and defined.
For most of us, we use sexual fantasy to make our sex better. While engaged in intercourse we conjure up insane images of sex acts. Everything from seeing our partner in bed with others in front of us, to her with another woman, and as time goes on it usually gets darker. We've all used the porn movies to excite before or during intercourse with our true 'love' right. Is that an act of love or just sex, almost a violent act that just feels good. Then it ends and we come back to our senses and think..'did I just do that? What was I saying to her? Whey did she say 'yes' to all my explicit questions? Damn is this any kind of love or love making?
I think the answer is for the most part sex is just that and being in love is something else. Yes early on and in rare cases the two cross paths. Just not often enough. After all most relationships end over..'he or she found someone else'...right. It's always painful when that happens. So after a few of those we come to expect 'the worst' down the road in the next relationship.
Over my years of dating and living with a woman, I've come to see no matter who you are, how good you look or how much money and power you have, relationships usually end badly. Maybe its a few months or years and their is a broken marriage with children to consider. Oh boy do those hurt.
Is there an answer to love and sex being on the same page with lasting effects. NO! Yet we all seek out this childhood romantic lie. AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER. Remember.
The mind has a way to make us forget the pain at some point. We even forget the sex for the most part. Think not? How many snapshots in your brain can you see of the relationship's sex acts from that partner say ten years back. Even a year back. They fade right.
When one falls in love, and for me that hasn't been too often, its the greatest feeling ever. Then you start to worry about how long it will last.
When you love someone of the opposite sex, you want to cherish them, protect them,and often try and control them. Sex is really more like a drug. We all need to get our fix with someone, somehow, some way.
The age old question: Can you be in love with someone yet seek sexual pleasure elsewhere? Answer I believe is YES. However continued sexual encounters outside the relationship will do major damage. Usually ending your 'love' relationship at some point.
I've tried it both ways. Just have a bunch of 'girlfriends' for fun and sex or the one special lady. To this day I have no good answer for which is best. I do know this we will all keep looking for love til the end comes. It's human nature. We all want to LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER.